Me: I am bored of being at the same place for almost three and a half years now. Humans have created a strange conventional world. How can they give 25 yrs of their life to studying! And everybody is following the conventions is even more strange.
XYZ: (happens to be one of my female friends) yeah…Don’t you think old times were good? Girls were not taught. They were happy with what they had…with marriage…family…
Me: smiling.
XYZ: You know what…my sis is expecting. I said to her that she should enjoy now...you know…marriage, family…kids…she said – “ you become unhappy when you know what you deserve and you know what you deserve when you study! “
Me: When my grandma talks about how some girl is happy with his hubby( because he earns a decent amount…has a flat…blah blah) I am surprised. When I tell them that for me most important thing is having my space in life and having the wavelength match with the guy, she is surprised!...
XYZ : Yeah…we have set patterns…we have strong likings and dislikings…point of views… so ultimately all of us will be unhappy in a marriage!
I guess I won’t make my daughter study much. She will have a better life…
Me : yeah…send her to some arts school or somewhere where she can just have fun and grow….
XYZ : B.A it is…
Both smile and go to our respective rooms….
Through the fences
10 years ago
6 comments:
Huh..i'll never be able to understand girls!
send her to a fashion designing college :P
deepak is rite u'll never undrsd them esp...rupali
hey who is dis?
hey, what's wrong with BA???
I fully agree with Mrs./Ms. xyz. The more the knowledge the more the problems. The more simpler ur life style the more happy u are.:) Infact its not juz the girl but even if the boy is not more learned then too they will be happy because ultimately its the pace of life which kills happiness. U r so much bogged down in official tensions (because they are demanding) and in that you forget that you have to devote some time into that relationships which is the core. In the maddening world of competition, deadlines and money chasing the person is so tensed that he seldom has any anytime to put into relationship (as it is undemanding) and he takes it for granted. The bond keeps on becoming weaker and ultimately snaps but the modern people with still an eye on competition etc. juz don't realize it and they take that in their stride saying there was nothing they could have done to keep it going. Man and women have been the same but still there is drastic increase in divorce cases why?? because the circumstances aren't the same, the work pressure the stress levels all these are eating into our lives.. Each person is pushing himself/herself to the limits for materiastic gains or to nurse their ego to prove they are the best and bright amongst all but it has a heavy toll on personal life.. Actually we can argue that we are earning more, living more luxuriously then before but again the gains are not in sync. with the price we pay. For eg. in olden time man used to do small things viz farming or similar but they were able to lead a comfortable and happy life or by doing small jobs. They were happy, the key was that they had lots of time to devote to the family, they didn't have so much stiff competitions or deadlines, they weren't drastically stressed as compared to people of today and they were living in a peaceful environment where there were some core values and ethics in place. Ofcourse they weren't earning as much as we do nowadays but again the demand was less too. They didn't want imported brand of shirts as we do running into around Rs.4000 a piece but were happy with the local tailor's stiching wic really speaking is more customized then these foreign brands wic we wear. In this way though we are increasing our income, we are even finding ways to spend it more lavishly. Though the basic things are same. as we say roti, kapda aur makaan. They were happy with their normal house or rather homes:) but nowadays ppl. are busy toiling to take a 4 bedroom flat which is just a house and never converts to a home. Uff am really turning into some writter stuff, better close this comment here itself. Take care. Adios. -- Akshat
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